Twice in three days February 28, 2005
Posted by charmingbutsingle in Dating, General Clumsiness and Related Stupidity, Men.trackback
He called again tonight. I was almost speechless when I looked at the caller ID. We talked for about 25 minutes again.
He asked when my bedtime was, and I couldn’t tell if that was a hint that he wanted me to come over. I have to be at work at 6:30 a.m. to leave with my boss and my boss’ boss to go to a meeting two hours away, so I couldn’t have gone even if he had blatantly asked.
Still …
The most frustrating thing is that he still hasn’t asked me out. And it’s driving me crazy. Calling and e-mailing me has to mean he likes me … so why doesn’t he just do it? I mean, I don’t bite (unless provoked or encouraged).
He did one thing that annoyed me. He brought up this girl who is friends with my friend. She and T made out at a party one time. And then she slept with his good friend. So, anyway, I was annoyed that he asked if I went out with her, and I tried to reply without sounding bitchy. (I don’t think that worked.)
Anyway, I think I’m going to call him Wednesday before we go out for drinks to see if I can encourage him to come have one with me, even though he’s pretty much said no to going out during the week. We’ll see. Maybe if I sort of kind of ask him out (but not really), he’ll get the picture that I like him a lot.
I don’t know why I’m so freaked out by all of this. It’s been so long since I did the traditional courting thing. I know T is typically more traditional and conservative than he’s been with me, so the best I can hope is that he’s trying to bring this back to his pace of things, which seems to be less about hooking up and more about traditional dating.
But really, why is this so odd? A guy I like is calling me and talking to me about my day and my life. He’s asking about what books I’m reading. He wants to know what I think about things. This is actually what I’ve been saying I wanted …
Why the hell does it feel so weird?
It feels weird because you haven’t had the opp. to get someone to treat you in such a flattering way, is my guess. It’s new and weird but at some point you’ll actually come to expect it.
BTW, in re: to your previous post’s comment reply -physical relationships aren’t so bad, I don’t think. I’ve had the same f— buddy for a year now and it just works well for us like that!
I know a guy who is an absolute winner with the girls. They fall over each other to get his attention, and when his friends call him out on it, he says Huh? Really?. The point is, some guys are absolutely oblivious to a woman’s advances (especially the verbal type) until they get hit over the head with a sign that says you’re interested (meaning you practically have to grab him and kiss him to get your message across). I’m not sure this may apply to your guy, but he does seem pretty gunshy, or at least pretty darn good at pushing your buttons and making you go crazy. : )
it probably feels weird cause he is being so ambiguous.
another thing…maybe ( and i am seriously giving him the benefit of the doubt here cause you said he was traditional) he asked about that other girl to see if you and her were friends. You said they made out, right? Maybe he doesn’t want to pursue anything with you if you two are friends, it might be weird if you all hung out.
by the way, i am an official fan of your blog now, i like your style of writing.
Whitney — You make a good point. I always expect the worst from guys. I need to grow up and get over that sentiment.
DD — He’s only being shy now. Seriously, at Halloween he totally pulled me into a bathroom to, um, make out with me and he practically ripped my arm off on New Year’s trying to get my out of the bar. I think he’s maybe trying to move from a drunken hook-up situation to a dating situation, but is overcompensating for our prior, um, activities.
Serially Single — I’m hoping asking about that other girl was just to see how much we hung out. He’s not the type to make out with your friend and then date you. (I hope that’s why he asked!)