Happy, but maybe a bit clueless March 24, 2006
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Some days, like a few days ago, you wait. And it kills you. And you feel that if you have to wait any longer, you will go nuts. And you question if being an adult is worth it and you stress. The phone doesn’t ring. The e-mail never comes.
And then some days, like today, when you don’t have to wait on good news, when it just comes, you are so happy that your chest wells up with pride. Because you did it – you saw what you wanted and you got it. And even though change is scary and I ultimately feel like both celebrating and running to the bathroom because I’m so nervous I could vomit, I am accomplished and hopeful. I’ve worked hard for the career I want and the reward is more (and harder) work.
This is when I like being an adult. Very much so.
At lunch, I wanted to scream my good news, but I was with co-workers and the time is not right. Not yet.
I was munching on my salad when Little Mr. Small Town walked in and joined a table of women. They seemed to be meeting about work. As I stood by the register later, our eyes met and he smiled. We exchanged hellos, but I was fearful of going over to say something. What if he didn’t remember who I was and just recognized that he’d met me before?
So I just smiled, slid on my big glam sunglasses and gave a flirty wave as I left.
I gave the women from work, all married, the story of him giving me his business card.
“He probably thinks I was rude to not call.”
They burst into protest, wondering why I didn’t call him.
“I don’t know, I don’t get the card thing,” I said. “All of the sudden giving out your business card at bars is the new black.”
They shook their collective heads.
“No wonder you’re still single,” someone said.
Do you still have the card? Maybe you should e-mail him a quick ‘easy-breezy’ message saying it was good to see him the other day, and ask him how he’s been.
business card is a little weird. they still make cocktail napkins for a reason.
i hate the business card thing. i dunno, something about it always just made me want to toss right in the trash can the moment they tossed it to me.
Alright, I was all on board with the business card idea until you called it the “new black”. Now I’m confused and frightened.
Flirtatious waves are hot and glam sun glasses make you roll your eyes, but they are still oh so hot! They have that I’m too cool for my own pants appeal. So I believe you left quite the impresion on homeboy.
…Unless he’s gay, and then you’re just screwed.
eternal freshman — Yeah, I’ve thought about that … but I’m at a loss. Does he want me to call?
Byron — That and CELL PHONES. The best way to get a number is to ask for it, type it into your cell and then call the other person so he/she has your number. Seriously, we have ALL of these gadgets nowadays …
jenn — Exactly. Look, another business card. Never seen one of those before.
Chad — I was joking about business cards being “the new black.” I technically think the new black might be Blackberrying across the bar. Joking. Sort of. We did sort of say hello and smile before I put on the glasses and waved goodbye … who knows. Tired.
A guy tried to pick me up in a bar once, in Puerto Rico, before he figured out I was straight. He exchanged email addresses with me. I don’t see the blackberry exchange far off, and then I’m going to respond with “What are your Stats?”, an emotiocon wink, and vomit.
I’d say he remembered you. I’m for emailing him a hello.
What do you WANT to do? What is your heart telling you?
Look sistah! You are rich, thin and beautiful (and charming!)
I haven’t called when I’ve been in similar situations. I think if a guy wants your number, he should ask for it. Good for you! Don’t you hate it when married women use that “No wonder your still single line?” Geez!
Congratulations honey, you deserve it! I never ever call.
Before it became trendy to do the business card thing…I had my ‘Pimping’ cards. Which are pretty much cards I printed up from Vistaprint with my cell phone number and email on there. I hand this out to alot of guys and more times they tend to call.
I’m not a big caller, never have been, never will be.
it’s not hard to ask for a phone number. if he wanted it, he would have asked for it. ’nuff said.
if he is too lazy to ask for a friggin’ number, he’s probably too lazy to put in any effort into any potential relationship you and he might have.
sorry, sweetie, he’s just not that into you. let it go. don’t contact him. if he wants you, he knows where to find you. you are worth a little effort!
giving out the business card
PRO’S: he knows it’s a real phone number and your real name and you’re not blowing him off; can be impressive if you have a cool job or work somewhere swanky
CON’s: he knows it’s your real phone number and your real name and if things go badly YOU CANNOT HIDE FROM HIM.