Being bold July 13, 2006
Posted by charmingbutsingle in Uncategorized.trackback
Yesterday I volunteered to take a quick break from work and fetch lunch for me and a co-worker from a place down the street, so I could breathe some fresh air and move around a bit. I was enjoying my two block walk and generally keeping to myself as I entered the building, pretty oblivious to everyone else.
Out of the corner of my eye, I saw someone I knew. Little Mister Small Town. I wasn’t sure that it was him, so I went to the counter and ordered the food and waited. I shot a sideways glance toward the table by the window – it was him, he was looking at me, but he was with a group of people.
I fussed with my bags, slid my wallet back into my purse and slyly fixed the hem of my shirt so that it laid flat against my body. And I put my shoulders back and turned to the door, walking by his table.
He looked away from the group, smiled and mouthed “Hello.”
I mouthed “Hi” back and slid my sunglasses on to head out into the world.
Another chance encounter and I couldn’t help myself from wondering if there was a reason I kept seeing him places. I am hopelessly romantic and I’ve seen too many romantic comedies, perhaps. I went to put it out of my mind.
But on the two block walk back, I decided that I let these opportunities go by too often. I don’t act on them and then I wonder.
I returned to my desk, dug into my salad and drafted a coy e-mail.
From: Charming
To: Little Mister Small Town
Re: Hello
Hi, we met many moons ago at a bar with [Friends' names]. You gave me your card (did I seek your official counsel at the bar that night?). Anyway, I just saw you at lunch but I didn’t want to interrupt you. I feel rude not saying hello since we work near to each other. Maybe next time I’ll get to say hello in person.
— Charming
He hasn’t e-mailed back, but I’m not freaking out. Either he does or doesn’t, but at least I made a bold gesture. If he’s interested, he’ll e-mail back. If he’s not and the hellos and coy smiles are just friendliness, he won’t.
I am proud of myself. I never make such bold moves. I just let things fester until they drive me insane. I don’t know where this new surge of confidence is coming from. But I like it.
I know what you mean. I used to let that sort of thing drive me nuts too.
Thing his, those bold little things are insignificant in the grand scheme of things, but oh how they feel good to do. So good. And you aren’t left wondering anymore, so it’s way better than leaving it up to fate. “Can’t leave it all up to Fate; she’s got lots to do”, to borrow from Ever After.
I applaud you and your newfound boldness.
Way to go for being bold! I love it when women are bold like that.
Good for you!
That way there’s no regret on your part.
As for him… well, he might regret it if he never replies.
Good for you!
That way there’s no regret on your part.
As for him… well, he might regret it if he never replies.
Go you!
I did something similar recently - emailing an ex that I haven’t talked to in nearly 2 1/2 years.
Just to see how he is. Didn’t even think I had the right email address.
Then, today, nearly 2 weeks after the email, I see his name in my Inbox. And he apologized for taking so long to respond.
I know nothing will come of it, as we’re too different to be in a relationship again, but taking that chance, and saying hello again after so long, felt great.
I would have done the same thing!
Good for you! I could never be so bold.
Good on you!
A little boldness never hurt anyone!
I would love that! I think you have encourgaged me to try also…boldness what a concept!
oh, girl, we’ve all been watching too many romantic comedies. hollywood has ruined all of us. my coworker and i were just talking yesterday that we are embarrassed to say we look for “signs”.
*groan*
the thing that is great about having these bold moments is that you are taking control of a little piece of the universe and saying to it, “look, i don’t care how this turns out. i just want to KNOW. so cough it up. it this what i’m supposed to do or not?”
no regrets. nothing to lose. it’s just an email to an acquaintance. but it’s just important enough to give you a rush.
sorta like that time i booty called a fireman i knew….blew up in my face, but hey, now i know. and since it didn’t happen, the fantasy was left intact…..
you go girl. and that was just as much polite as it was bold. very classy.
Yay you! Great move.
That’s awesome! Can’t wait to see how this unfolds!