2006 — A good year? December 26, 2006
Posted by charmingbutsingle in Dating, Friends, General Clumsiness and Related Stupidity, Men, Single Girl Cliches, Tales of Online Dating.trackback
The end of another year has turned my thoughts to what I have achieved in the past 12 months and what I haven’t.
I have gotten a better job. I have become friends with my parents. I kept my New Year’s Workout Resolution for three whole months. I’ve grown up considerably, even though I still have moments of panic, like on Christmas Eve when I realized I left my spare casserole dish at the office potluck and didn’t have anything to contain the Christmas Morning Breakfast Strata and called my mom freaking out and later flipped out while I was wrapping gifts because they looked so ugly and you would think that I would be GOOD at gift wrapping because everyone else in my family is and I am so talented at so many things, like falling down in high heels, spilling things and, to a lesser extent, dating.
Dating. Oh, have I dated.
I was hoping 2006 would be THE year. You know, the year where I fell blissfully in love over romantic candlelit dinners, afternoon picnics and evenings at home cooking and had a date for weddings and parties and Saturday nights and got flowers on my birthday and had someone other than my brother for whom I could buy comfy sweaters that I would later steal and wear because they smell so much like a man I loved. (I love my brother. I won’t be stealing his sweaters because that’s kind of creepy and he has a girlfriend to do that.)
Not so much.
I did, however, find a surge of confidence in the Spring and decided to get out there and online date – which has proven to be every bit as scary as I thought it would be. But it has also been fun. And as much as I complain about it, I will probably continue on for a few more months at least and take advantage of the confidence boosting effects of my New Year’s Resolution workout plan. (Finally putting that gym membership to good use!) But I’ll probably be switching to Yahoo! Personals when my Match.com subscription runs out in January.
Maybe.
And I did learn a lot of about how you can be happy even when you’re alone and how you at times have to buy those flowers for yourself and not rely on other people – especially men – to make you feel sexy and loved and special and beautiful and charming and irresistible.
Sometimes.
That will be the case this New Year’s Eve, as I seem to have alienated my only chance at a midnight kiss (or after hours fun) for the glorious celebration of the changing year. The whole detailed mess is probably best left between the two of us. I can’t decide if, in the end, I owe him an apology or if he owes me one or if the whole thing is being blown royally out of proportion.
Suffice it to say that the correct response to your divorced Man du Jour when he tells a story that ends with, “And that’s the main reason why I’m not married anymore,” is NOT “Well I know one person who is very glad that you’re not married anymore,” followed by a soft kiss on the lips.
No matter how cute you are.
No matter how drunk you are.
No matter how low-cut your dress is.
No matter how sexy you look in those shoes.
Just, you know, for future reference, in case you ever find yourself in that situation after a night of too many cosmos with one of your girlfriends while she downs something on the rocks and laments the parting of her boyfriend of six weeks (She really felt like he was the one, y’all!) and you decide that a late-night visit to your Man Candy’s house is, like, totally the best way to occupy the hours between closing time and hangoversville.
Sounds like a good year.
well… i’m glad my divorce is finally over. i’ll have to pay attention to what happens when i get a soft kiss on the lips =:-)
glad you had a good year… question mark and all.
2006 was the year I fully embraced online dating and actually had a good time. While I got tired of the men who were looking for women “without issues” (huh??!), I did enjoy discovering that there really are quality men still available in the world.
Good luck in 2007!
Haha the response sounded cute! I’m so glad that you found confidence in yourself without needing the affirmation of others
We should all be so lucky.
Why did he get so upset over your “I know one person who’s glad you aren’t married anymore” comment?
It sounds like you had a very insightful year!
Sounds like you had an adventurous 2007. At least it wasnt boring, thats what I always say. Not sure I understand why a guy would get upset about a girl who currently liked him saying that. Perhaps its for the best? Good luck in 2007 and hope you find whatever/whoever it is youre looking for.
I’m with Lisa and Blind Mind. What did you do wrong?
I think you had a pretty good year too. Certainly eventful and plenty of stories.
Good luck on the New Year’s Resolutions! Maybe you can join the Blog-Wide Workout team we’ve got going on to help everyone along with their workouts.
Hope you have a great New Year’s.
Yup, I don’t see anything wrong with that comment either… maybe that’s why I’m single though…
Congrats on a fun-filled year.
Lola x
NOT “Well I know one person who is very glad that you’re not married anymore,” followed by a soft kiss on the lips?
Hmmm. Perhaps just the kiss should have worked better in the scheme of things. That speaks volumes and can say many things, without verbalizing too many. But it’s sort of like surviving a bad wreck. You’re glad to be still counted among the living, but all in all you’d still be better w/o having wrecked. Just an opinion. Cheers & Good Luck in the New Year, ‘VJ’
No no no you don’t, don’t take responsibility for his drama. This guy has Walking Wounded all over him. I’m sure your other friends have told you he’s not worth your time… they’re right!
He got into the dating scene way too quickly; you’re second-guessing yourself when he’s the one who should be apologizing. His emotional baggage and poor handling of it isn’t your fault.
Just to give you a little heads up…I did Match.com a while back and when I browsed through Yahoo personals, they were all the same guys! Maybe that is just here in Pittsburgh. Maybe it will be different for you. Check it out first. I got tired of spending the money and believe it or not have met more “normal” guys from MySpace…ones that I actually have become friends with.
Good luck in 2007. I, like you, thought 2006 would be THE year. It wasn’t so it’s time to start over.