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New highs/lows in social networking sites February 26, 2007

Posted by charmingbutsingle in Dating, Friends, Life, Tales of Online Dating.
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Let’s face it – Facebook and MySpace are pretty much legalized cyberstalking. Why Google your dates when you can track down their MySpace profiles? (Super simple if you’re online dating, as most people use the same pictures for both because everyone wants to put their sexiest face forward.)

Yes, I gag when I see wedding photos used as profile pictures on these sites. (The same goes for close ups of engagement rings, FYI.) I know it is because I have a pang of jealousy when I see these photos. Although, come to think of it, some of my own photos are from weddings – everyone always looks so pretty and smiley.

Must be the wine.

Tonight I experienced a new oddity in Facebook/MySpace-land. A classmate from high school is using her sonogram as her photo on her profile. Either a sign of the times or totally show offy – perhaps both.

And, in a seemingly unrelated note (stay with me here), I was at the cigar bar last week and The Blackberry barely said two words to me. It was very nice; Prom Date and I sipped wine and smoked cigarettes and generally had a fine time without me having some guy whispering in my ear about how he wanted to come home with me while also promising to not even touch me – not even a little bit – in a sexual way. (Really? I look that dumb?)

Anyway, Prom Date and I talked about this anomaly and figured that he’d finally seen the light (and that it wasn’t going to lead him to my bed). In reality, one of his friends was ribbing me about how The Blackberry was “my boyfriend” and I snapped back with something unflattering and I’m sure his friend told him. Which was passive aggressive, but a means to an end, right?

I wasn’t sure if The Blackberry was intentionally ignoring me or just scamming on another chick until this week. And I found out in the most gloriously high school way — when he deleted me from his list of friends on MySpace.

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1. wailin - February 27, 2007

Goes to show no matter what, people never really grow up.

2. VJ - February 27, 2007

Hey that’s good news on the BB front! And to think it all could have happened earlier with a few pointed comments to his friends. Geesh! Cheers & Good Luck, ‘VJ’

3. Lola - February 27, 2007

A sonogram? Surely that’s indecent exposure? Haul her off to jail!

Lxx

4. kittenpower - February 27, 2007

He deleted you. LOVE IT.

5. Sil - February 27, 2007

My Space is the Devil.

6. Catherinette Singleton - February 27, 2007

Myspace is the devil, but cyberstalking is good fun!

7. TJ - February 27, 2007

Awesome! I am totally not surprised at all that the Blackberry would use a tactic like deleting you from his MySpace to signal the end of your friendship since he’s done very little so far that really screams “adult.” Congrats to you!

Posting wedding photos as profile pics IMO is acceptable…beautiful dress, hair and make up professionally done, picture professionally lit, styled, and shot…there are few times in ones life when those kinds of picture taking events occur, so yeah, I can understand wanting to let the world see you at your best. But close ups of engagement rings? That’s just super, super tacky, and THAT I definitely see as boasting. Posting a sonogram picture is kinda odd, but I’m not sure if it’s really “bragging” per se…but maybe that’s because I’m in no hurry to be pregnant right now, so it’s not something I envy.

8. totaltransformation - February 27, 2007

I created a profile but haven’t done anything with it since.

9. Carmen - February 27, 2007

ha ha ha - that’s too funny and sooooo immature. I’d probably do the same thing though :)

10. EcamirG - February 27, 2007

MySpace frightens me. I’m thinking of deleting my profile… it’s a hell of a thing when you get a message that someone from high school has found you (bear in mind that I no longer even use the same name that I did back then.)

Or the worst (for a gay man, at least) is when an ex-girlfriend finds me. Yikes. What a way for them to find out. I tried to track them all down and tell them over the phone, at least, but there are still a handful who don’t know. One of them found me on MySpace.

Poor thing.

She wrote me a comment that said, “Sorry to hear you hate vaginas now,” and I didn’t know how to respond, so I just wrote back, “It’s not your vagina’s fault. Don’t be sorry.”

Ergh.

11. wailin - February 27, 2007

lol@Ecamir

If it helps I looked up an exgirlfriend to find that she is now a hardcore feminist butch lesbian. Though she can’t blame my penis, because I never slept with her. Would have been a massive blow to my ego, too.

I only have friends on myspace that are people I have met and know in real life or through World of Warcraft. That’s my rule, and I stick with it. Safer.

12. M - February 27, 2007

This is hilarious- I have to say, as much as Blackberry is an idiot, he provides such amusement that I’m vaguely fond of him :)
Wedding pictures- okay, although a little creepy if those are the only ones posted (your life doesn’t have anything else in it??). Engagement rings? Definitely tacky.

13. clearslate2007 - February 27, 2007

“She wrote me a comment that said, “Sorry to hear you hate vaginas now,” and I didn’t know how to respond, so I just wrote back, “It’s not your vagina’s fault. Don’t be sorry.”

****

That’s by far the funniest thing I’ve read in a long, long time!

Cheers!

Alex

14. Drew - February 27, 2007

I don’t have a mySpace.

MySpace IS the devil.

Facebook isn’t much better….

I’ve seen people on MySpace who make profiles for their newborns.

And/or put PICTURES of their newborn ON ThE INTERNET as their own face shots.

Creepy, creepy shit.

Those of us that are actually mature DON’T use MySpace.

Lay off the internet dating for a while and you’ll feel better.

15. The Accidental Bitch - February 27, 2007

Nice, it’s like getting clarity and closure without even speaking. I like. I feel like a celebration is in order! Free at last!

16. N - February 27, 2007

got closure AND a good post out of it! excellent!
done. [hand-dusting gesture] moving on!

17. The Reporter - February 28, 2007

These guys will probably do very well (which is sad by itself), but this is a true low:

http://fakeyourspace.com/

18. Reba - February 28, 2007

My picture on myspace is my engagement ring. I swear the only reason I put it there was because my sister was teasing that I hadn’t updated my profile about my engagement. I went all out. I put a wedding song on there, posted my ring, and made my background a cute little flower girl. It was suppose to be funny. I guess not so much.

19. rg - February 28, 2007

Being deleted. I never would have thought it would be a good thing, yet sometimes it’s the perfect thing.

And a sonogram? That’s just not right.

20. Buffy - March 1, 2007

Am clueless where facebook is concerned. But I do develop, from time to time, a minor addiction to myspace.

21. BCOL - March 2, 2007

Oh MySpace… It is great to keep in touch with friends that live far away (i.e. see pics, read their blogs, etc.) My profile is private and I only have “real” friends on my friend list. …But it is evil for the cyber-stalking capabilities.

22. Angela - March 12, 2007

LOL! Reminds me of the time this guy that I was kind of “talking” to deleted me from his top friends when I called him out on ignoring me in front of his friends to talk to another girl.

BlackBerry is a douchebag. You’re better off without him. :)