To the men of the world: A note sent on behalf of your ex-girlfriend(s) October 16, 2007
Posted by charmingbutsingle in Dating, Open Letters, Seriously!.trackback
Attention Men:
File the following under “things my child-wanting ex-girlfriend I dumped doesn’t need to see”:
- Pictures of you holding the baby you just had with your new girlfriend.
Thanks,
Charming
He.Did.NOT!
Lowest blow in the history of ever? Jeez.
Nooo! Erm, insensitive, much?
I’m seething for you! Not cool.
Wow. See, this proves my theory that ‘All men are stupid’ is right, yet again. Just remember the flip side, all women are crazy. No offense, Charming.
Then again, perhaps it was an unintentional slight? Or is it obvious the purpose of said photo?
Ouch. I usually just get pictures of the weddings!
There’s just so much wrong to go around, and seemingly the orbit around you gets tighter somehow with the swarm. Smile politely and know you dodged that bullet. There’s some supreme satisfaction in that fact. Cheers & Good Luck, ‘VJ’
Thank you for that advice. It should be carved in their foreheads.
What an idiot.
My ex and I broke up because I wanted to get married and he did not. The afternoon that I moved out of the house that we shared, he moved the new girl in - they got married within the month! I was actually glad to hear all about this stuff, because I heard about it all way later, way after I had moved on, but the story continued with their getting married as a way to help get her kids back, as she had been found an unfit mother. They ended up getting really deep into drugs, losing their jobs and not getting her kids back. He never finished the masters degree that I helped support him while he was getting - I think he had 3 classes left when we split.
Gee - I am so much better off now!!
Oh. My. God.
I read often, though I’ve never commented before, but this one roused me from my lurkdom. That is just so beyond…well, it’s just beyond. Seriously, I’ve had to deal with some moderately crazy stuff like that from my ex, but this makes him seem positively gentlemanly and sensitive by comparison. And, trust me, that’s really saying something.
WTF!!! Why would he even think that wuld be ok? Some people have no clue. My ex just had a baby recently and I have been curious to see it, but then again I have my own already too. ANd, nope, never sent him an announcement. The messed up thing is that I went to a park in our city a few months ago and his car was there. So I was playing with my son at the park while their baby shower was going on in the buidling next door. I actually hope she didn’t see me because I didn’t want to ruin that day for her. And the hospital is next to work and I wanted to meet my aunt for lunch. So I go to meet her and see his truck (again) at the hospital and decide not to. Didn’t want to ruin that day either. Still curious though. About the baby that is. Not him.
The words aren’t coming. Instead, I will just shake my head.
Omg! The same thing happened to me recently!! My ex- just had a baby w/ a woman that is 7 years older than him….she’s 39 and she already has a 19 yr old and a 15 yr old….I saw pics of all of them…craziness….The whole time we were together he said he never wanted children….Men!
I feel for ya. But I’m sure your kids will be much cuter. Hang in there.
Just curious- did he email the picture to you, or did you stumble upon it on Myspace or something? If he emailed the pic to you, that’s realllllllllly a dick move.
Am I the only one that doesn’t get this? The guy’s a proud new father, of course he’s going to take every opportunity to show off pictures. And he’s a guy, and undoubtedly sleep-deprived, so of course it’s not going to cross his mind that you might not want to see them. Unless he was deliberately waving them round going “ha ha ha, I have a baby and you don’t!” I can’t see that there’s much of a crime here…
…going to go put on the protective armor now…
Yea… I’ve had that happen before. It sucks.
What sucks more is when you get in an invite to the baby shower. Ouch. Be thankful that it didn’t go that far for you. Never happened to me, but has happened to a few people I do know.
Yowza.
Somethings always sting no matter how over someone you are, huh?
You know what, Charming? I had a similar moment just this week. I was talking with my ex-husband about our son and how smart he is and he proceeded to say how smart his new baby is too…the one he had with the woman he left me for…the woman he left me for right when I thought we were going to start trying for a second child again after I suffered a miscarriage. What made him think he could just freely talk about his baby girl?
Trust me. I know how you were feeling.
Your posts are never boring Charming
I have the same question as TJ… because that would make all the difference!
Ahh… The Nurse rears his ugly head?
The only thing I can liken this to for myself is when I heard the details of my ex’s engagement. Excepting how I got notification of said proposal, this was the worst thing to hear. He proposed on Christmas, which I also did. Only she told me maybe after almost 8 year, and said yes to him after about 1.
It’s like saying ‘I lied. I really wanted the same thing you did, it just so happens I didn’t want it with you. Sorry for the confusion.’ Then seeing the ring I gave her replaced didn’t help either.
But, as possible with your situation, Charming, it was not malicious on her part. It was just what it was. Doesn’t make it hurt any less, but it helped a little to not be as angry about it.
Yup, been there. F-ed up no matter how you slice it.
Bleh. They suck.
Oh Charming .. If you lived in NY .. I would be so scared. When this all started, I was dating a Doctor.. and Him and I had the same fate as you and .. “he who shall not be named” had. And now, after all this time, and time without speaking, he emails me a picture of himself and his cute son … that he has with his wife .. (the woman he left me for and married like a week after)
wtf.
I don’t feel so bad anymore .. I’m not alone.
I remember you talking about this guy, Who knows if there aren’t other photos of him with other women and babies?
not very uncommon .
Wow! That is just too despicable for words.
With any luck, he’ll find out it’s someone else’s kid.
Bastard. You’re better off without him.
I’m with Old MD Girl. Nothing like answering heartache with heartache.
Although I”m sure it wasn’t malicious, it still hurts/angers. WTF! I’m so tired of having feelings!
(points at the comment #30 above)
Hilarious!!!
well you have a new governor now, congrats.
Hmmm…. how callous.
Laughing my head off. The second thing I really don’t need to see or recieve is the wedding pictures by e-mail and the RING that I had shown him that I love. Bastard.