In your gut October 24, 2007
Posted by charmingbutsingle in Listing is fun and easy, Men.trackback
I could write a list of traits I want in a man.
Funny. Relaxed. Intelligent. Kind. Passionate. Empathetic. Curious. Warm.
And that’s just a start.
I could list out physical traits.
Tall. Broad shouldered. Cuddly.
But really, all of this thinking of The Kind or The Type of man reminds me of a conversation about patent leather shoes I had recently. About not being able to list the qualities, but inherently knowing them.
I was wearing some plain patent leather Mary Janes with a short heel.
“Those are really cute patent leather – they’re not trashy looking at all,” the first woman said.
“I know, and you have to be careful with patent leather. It isn’t always very work appropriate,” I said. “Sometimes you run the risk of looking like you stumbled away from your pole for a second.”
“What takes patent leather from cute to over the top?” a second woman asked.
“Well, I couldn’t tell you for sure,” I said, pausing. “But I know it when I see it.”
Sometimes you’ve just got to try them on for size, and see if they fit well. And then other times they’re ’so cute’ you want to believe they fit well, but they never really do. I could go on, but work calls… Cheers & Good Luck, ‘VJ’
I know it when I see it right on girl… sometimes it’s the only way…
I wish finding awesome men was as easy as finding awesome shoes because most of the time, there are too many shoes I want. And most of the time, there are no men I want.
I loved this post!
I just had a post listing the things I want in a man, the thing is that I never really know what I want entirely, I get sidetracked by all the glitter…!
I thought I knew what I wanted in a woman. Then I met one that was more than I could have imagined. She had less of what I had mentally noted and a whole lot more I didn’t realize I did like in a woman.
yep, I agree, sometimes you just know.
You know that line is from a Supreme Court case when the Justice was asked if he could pick out what pornography was - he couldn’t identify it, but he would know it when he saw it!
damn, anne, you beat me to it; I held my breath reading the comments, certain someone had already pointed out the “prurient interest” angle. Guys are definitely like that - sometimes they just have that undefinable langnaippe that sets them apart, even if only for a short while.
The thing about patent leather shoes is that they arrive pre-shined and a little windex now and then is all that’s usually required to take away the scuffs. But real leather needs to be polished repeatedly and over time, a shine that’s just as good as patent leather arrives. It takes effort, but it’s worth it. The shine on patent leather is superficial, while that on real leather goes deeper. Insert man/woman analogy here.
All of my shoes are real leather. Same with the whips.
it is so true. the person you think you are looking for may walk right up to you and introduce themselves but they just won’t be right.
That was the perfect analogy.
Greetings,
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I absolutely agree. Also, my morning has been made by the fact that someone (sugar kane) used the word “lagniappe.” Happiness! I have the exact same reaction as Hope, though: I want many shoes, but very very few men. Also, I think shoes are easier to break in than boyfriends.
so very true - about both men and shoes
you know what? I love watching a movie and eating take out alone! I don’t feel lonely because of it…it is my down time. But I do understand what you mean about feeling alone sometimes, despite friends, family. In my current situation, that also includes the boyfriend I have. Men aren’t everything…even when you think you have who you want, sometimes you don’t.
aw, i like this post! very true, very true! i know it when i see it, too!