A destination November 27, 2007
Posted by charmingbutsingle in Blog, I'm So Meta, NaBloPoMo, Weberific!.trackback
I, like most bloggers, watch my stats and referrers with a keen eye. I notice, for example, that yesterday I saw the most traffic I’ve seen since I moved to this here blog to WordPress and its own domain. (Thanks, y’all!)
I see that a lot of people get here by looking for information about being charming (I’m the seventh result you get when you Google the word “charming,” which I think means I’m somehow a Charming Expert. I should add that to my resume.) and about finding charming men or marrying off your daughters and about why he didn’t call you (or your daughters).
And, no, I don’t know why he didn’t call. He’s probably a moron. You’re better off without him, in my humble view.
People come here searching for information dating and getting married and being a bridesmaid and about seersucker. Or dating a seersucker-wearing man. Or what shoes to wear as a bridesmaid, say, maybe with your orange dress.
But yesterday, oh yesterday, I got two hits off of the search string “get pregnant via a turkey-baster.”
Wowser. I hope you figured out what you needed. Because, well, I have an idea about how that works, but I won’t get into details.
I stress about who’s linking here – I see that you get here via MySpace and Facebook profiles and I stress when these profiles are private. Please don’t be saying mean things about me. My little charming heart would just break.
So, indulge me if you will. Let me be meta and ask about myself. It is, in fact NaBloPoMo and I’m running low on inspiration and stories about men.
How did you get here? Why do you stay?
I don’t remember how I got here, but I stay because 1) you are funny and 2) I can relate to a lot of your stories.
I’ve told you this before but I got here *years ago* by googling Be My Downfall by Del Amitri. And I know exactly what you mean by the private profile links on myspace… one of my Youtube videos is linked to on Myspace and I wish I knew whyyyyy!
Don’t remember exactly how I got here, but it might have had something to do with Neil at Citizen of the Month? Maybe? Or someone who reads him….
Anyway it was over a year ago. And I keep coming back because your writing is good and parts of your story echos parts of mine.
Aw, geez, I don’t remember how I got here, but I do remember you were one of the first blogs I started reading regularly. The reason I stay is simple: your writing is informative and interesting, and so very often downright funny! Plus, well, you’re pretty darn charming.
(Sorry, couldn’t help it, plus it’s late at night and I’m not so creative this late… LOL)
I found you through another blogger (Spread Eagle In New York), and I stuck around because I find your blog to be both entertaining and insightful. It is a rare combination these days.
Can’t remember how I first found you… but I keep coming back because you’re funny, and witty, and make me feel less crazy… not that you are… but… oh, you know what I mean. right? sorry. anyway.
Besides you somehow inspired me to do NaBloPoMo… so I have to stop by and remind myself there are other crazy people torturing themselves this month.
I stay knowing that some poor nimrod picked up on my joke about turkey basters. Which you know, it actually slightly older than you are, truth be told! Which of course gladdens my heart.
And then there’s the writers strike, and escaping whatever work I’m supposed to be doing. Such as ‘describe the coming economic disaster in 550 words or less.’ That’s been on hold for a bit. I can’t estimate the extent of the subprime debacle. I can describe it, and trace what went wrong, but just how big the fish is? It looks to be somewhere past 400 Billion presently, or @ about 1% of GDP. That might not sound like much, but the fish has a nasty habit of growing late at night when not too many people are looking. And if it gets to be much beyond 2-3% of GDP, all sorts of really, Really nasty& tragic things start to happen incredibly quickly. Like in the horror movies.
So by comparison the blogs are a relatively ‘happy diversion’. Real life without the planes crashing around you. Typically you’re dealing of all the same eternal questions that have remained open for centuries and even down the eons. The intriguing questions about human nature, not about the desperate need to be reinstating a new Glass-Steagall Act to prevent a banking collapse.
See? Much more pleasant to contemplate almost anything else likely to come up in daily conversation. Except the wars, and that’s a whole ‘nother story. Cheers& Good Luck! ‘VJ’
i think there are plenty of folks whom you don’t pick up at all via site stats. i don’t normally actually visit this page; i read your blogs through a rss digest, which rather conveniently shows all the new entries from all of my subscribed blogs. so, all the months and months of readership you got out of me, you maybe saw with a handful of actual site visits
and to answer your actual questions: i think i got here via another blog, and i stayed for the same reason everyone else did … your entries are engaging! you have a way of writing that, were it a book, would be one of those books whose pages you just have to keep turning still even when it’s 4am, and you swore you would only read to the end of the chapter when you picked it up hours and hours ago
Like so many of your readers, I don’t know how I arrived here, but I return for your oh-I’ve-been-there dating stories, your I-need-to-stop-texting/calling/stalking-him incidents (because we’ve all been there, too), your love of music and shoes and family, and those sentences that that make me want to hug you. You’re a genuine writer, which I think we all appreciate. Plus you update frequently! Yay!
i think i might have found you from barely legal, that law student blog, but i don’t remember now. but i found your post about breakup songs and you wrote about untouchable face and i was hooked and now i visit every day. which has been remarkably exciting this past month!
I think I found you through a post from someone on BlogHer, but I can’t quite remember. I haven’t been lurking for long, but I find you to be a fascinating read.
I think i found you from Isheeta’s blog:
http://isheeta.typepad.com/
who in turn I found from another blog, I think it was
http://childoftwentyfive.blogsome.com/
which in turn I got from a local blogroll called
http://www.kottu.org
You write well, and the posts are generally interesting and sometimes downright hilarious.
I found you as a link in my Tags section, I believe. I stay because VJ’s answers are so damned interesting!
And yeah, for some reason I was getting hits from Bang Brothers. Be glad the word naked isn’t in the title, cause you get some messed up searches. Even the most innocent of ideas and words can sound horribly wrong when paired with naked, believe you me.
Oh, and I gotta say I have blog envy.People come here, read, and comment constructively. I just argue with my ex girlfriend. : / Such is life.
Not sure how I found you oh so long ago, but I did and I stick around because (and I hope this does not offend) you’re the Southern definitely more Charming version of me…or at least that’s what I keep telling myself. The writing is fabulous and the sense of humor spot on. Who wouldn’t want to hang around?
I found you through the blogroll on citywendy’s blog probably about a year ago. I am not sure that you are still linked on there. Surprisingly, I don’t read your blog because of the interesting dating stories (which I enjoy, they just aren’t the key draw for me) but for the posts on shoes or dresses or mascara or some other guilty pleasure girl-thing like that. Which are sometimes too few and far between for my liking
i’m the publicist that emailed you about, i think, meg cabot’s book. (meaning ha! i know your real name) (i’ll never tell).
i’m a blogger in my “real life” and i added you to the list of blogs that i read daily, ’cause you’re fun!
hey there! i got here through a link on someone else’s blog (which i somehow visited through another blog!). i clicked on your link coz your blog title struck a chord!
and i couldn’t stop reading after that! your entries are funny and express very much how i feel as a single. its great to know i’m not alone!
I got here from the WordPress homepage, when you were featured under one of the department headings one day. And being attached to a southerner myself, I was hooked on your blog.
I got here a long time ago from an article on Match I believe. You write well and keep my interest. Also I guess it’s interesting to see into a twenty-something mind. With dancing I hang out with many and it’s interesting to see the differences.
I think I got here via another blog. I love your writing, and I read the whole thing (about 2 years worth) in a matter of days (major procrastination at work).
I discovered you from a link on a different blog I stumbled across (I no longer keep up with that blog). I believe that your post on that day was about going out to dinner with friends and seeing a guy who was exactly your type. Then your friend you were with pointed out same said guy to say he was a complete jerk, and your only response was, “of course he is” Having fallen into similar patterns myself, I was intrigued, I read all of your old files and just kept reading, the writing is witty, and often can be related to my own feelings about things. Plus we both love to sit in our car and scream out “Break Your Heart” at the top of our lungs.
I found my way here via my friend Daily Editor who links to your blog. I have been reading your blog for awhile and when I started my blog, immediately linked you. What keeps me coming back? Well, first of all, you’re sent directly to my email
But mostly, I find it interesting to read about someone who is practically the same age as I am battling the single girl battle and having alot of fun with your friends and family along the way. It’s really weird, for me, to hear about how your friends and family think it’s so bizarre “at your age!” to be single. Maybe it’s a Southern thing? Anyway, I like your writing and you make me laugh. Keep on keepin’ on!
I don’t recall how I found you, but I am participating in NabloPoMo because I read about it on your blog. Way to be influential. I read every day because I like you. Awww. Anyway, nice to kind of meet you. I keep an eye on my stat counter too, and I notice a lot of my friends out click to you, so I know they read you too.
Found (a month or two ago) via Spread Eagle in New York while bored at work.
Stayed because… the southern perspective is interesting but not overdone and you’re a little older than me but not so old that your stories are irrelevant,; they’re often insightful and almost always entertaining. Most of the time I am laughing with you, but in all honesty I am occasionally laughing at you. The “slip” commentary comes to mind, because I had no idea someone in their late 20’s could be so out of touch with young women (since you still are one). Same goes for pretty much all fashion discussion on this blog. Haha anyway, the dating stories are the best, and in my opinion that is where you are winning over your loyal readers.
I almost left when you wrote about tormenting your newly vegetarian bro, especially because you were formerly a vegetarian yourself… I guess that was an attempt at humor… I tried to overlook that and instead focus on our mutual enjoyment of The Hills, the dirtiest of all dirty pleasures. So far so good.
I found a link to your page on the old See Alyssa Date blog on Glamour. I stayed because you entertain me and I can relate to you even though I am attached. You seem like a chick I’d like to have for a friend. Down to earth, funny , intelligent…. and I plan to keep reading. And might I add how well you are meeting your challenge!! Excellent!
Hmm… I can’t remember how I found you initially, though my guess is it was a link off another blog. I stayed b/c I love reading your stories. Even my husband will read your blog from time to time, and he’s not a blog reader. He was telling me the other day how impressed he is with your ability to recall these intricate dating stories from back in college. ; )
A friend asked me about the Patron Saint of Boyfriends, and I turned to my good friend Google who led me to your blog about your grandmother and the Patron Saint Ann. It made me laugh and think - oh I could probably be friends with this girl, and so I’ve stayed.
I think I came here through Jo at Pseudo Dating? I stay because I find a lot of parallels in our lives..our dating experiences, our outlooks on life. I enjoy both my drinks and my boys tall as well. But moreso my drinks. ;O)
Add to that your sense of humor and of course, your charm…I think we’d be great friends in “real” life!
I found you through a link on someone else’s blog one day when I was bored. Other people’s blogrolls are how I find some of the best blogs/bloggers. I liked your stuff so much, I added you to my feed reader.
Keep up the good work!
from blog ‘almost40yearoldvirgin’ ; wonder where he is now ?
I enjoy reading your blog- keep up the great work!
I also found you through a blogroll link. I come back because you’re interesting to read.
I can’t remember what made me add you to my rss feeds. I keep you there because you are immensely entertaining.
I don’t remember how I found you, probably through a blogroll somewhere. But I relate to you, and a lot of things you write have happened to me. There are a lot of entries that I want to reply to with, “OMG! My family said the same thing to me!” Especially when you talk about being single. Plus, you’re witty, which I enjoy.
I found you through Exoterica…and I stay because of your Southern Charm and great writing. I can identify with 99% of the things you write about. Love it!
Hi there — I think I found your site from the preppy chic website - I come back because you’re such a talented writer, it’s a pleasant break from the workday, and a lot of what you are dealing with mirrors some of the things that keep dancing around in the back of my head. However, charming, one thing that I keep thinking when I read this is, you are so young! I am actually 37, divorced after a brief marriage, and entering the dating world again. I have had a few heartbreaks, but honestly haven’t found it that dreadful at all. If I can offer you any encouragement, it gets better! I think that men mature a little slower than we do, and that as you go through the next few years, you’ll see that the men you meet will start becoming just that, men, and not boys. 30 is actually a great age. Men that age are interested in relationships, want families and want all the pleasures of domestic life that you enjoy (and describe so well). I know how hard it is to follow all that advice about “just enjoying what you have when you have it,” but as much as you can, just really try to. One of my very best friends just got married three years ago at 36, and has had two babies since. You have years and year - enjoy!
I found you thru another blog (one of the Glamour magazine bloggers) and I stayed with you becuase I can totally relate to you and I really like your writings!
I found you through Daily Editor, and it’s my first time here, so hi! I’ll be back! I love the way you write!
I don’t know how I found you either…but I’m going to hazard a guess and say it was through Kiss and Blog…that’s one of the first blogs I started reading! I keep track of you through Bloglines…that way I never miss a new post!
I think I echo a lot of the others who have posted before me…I saw your blog on someone elses and the title caught my eye so I checked it out and immediately loved it. You not only write about things I totally relate to, you write in a way that is entertaining, humorous, and informative. I just recently started reading your blog but when I have extra time I go back and read old posts.
I believe I came across your blog through a wordpress tag. I think the first post I read was about family. I stay because I enjoy the way you right about real life. I think you write honestly and to express your feelings not to draw in readers or build stats. Posts are always interesting and since they are about real life I think all of us can relate to each post in some form or fashion.
I found your blog by googling for Orbit’s Mint Mojito gum. How strange is that? Almost as good as the turkey baster thing
I keep reading because I love your writing and witty insights into all matter of things.
I got here via a link on a friend’s blog.
I keep reading because you talk about interesting stuff (hello, shoes?!) and you’re a great writer. I love the one-post-every-day stuff.
I don’t remember, from the blog roll of someone on the blog roll of someone on the blogroll of Sex and Moxie? I love your sense of humor, the way you write and NaBloPoMo means I get to read you everyday! Yay!
I found your blog through another blog, but keep reading because of the great writing & sense of humor. I always need a little entertainment. Also, it is awesome that there is a another 20-something going through the same situations (bridesmaid-ing, exboyfriends, and the search for good men!).
I must have gotten hear from someone’s blogroll, but no idea whose.
I keep reading because dammit, I know you are going to meet Mr Wonderful and I plan to be reading the day you post and say ‘I’ve met him and I’m not blogging anymore’ because that is just what seems to happen. And I’ll be oh-so-happy for you.
Can’t remember. Been reading a while, back when you were first doing match.com for the first time. I come back because 1) your writing is intriguing and 2) I hope some day you will reveal what southern city you live in. not a stalker just curious.
I searched “moisturizing elbows”.
No, just kidding.
I don’t know why I stay, we have pretty much nothing in common except we are the same age. But I live in New Zealand and you Americans are just so damn hilarious sometimes.
I like lots of the others got to you from a link on somebody’s blog roll, and I just keep coming back. I like reading your stories. I’m doing NaBloPoMo too, and my posts the last two days have been crap. I can’t wait till Saturday; I might not post for a week (well, not really, b/c I doubt I could stay away that long).
I started reading all blogs I could find about being single and dating mostly because it’s my life, and partially because I started writing a dating blog of my own for a newspaper in Seattle. I found your blog on This Fish Needs a Bicycle’s blogroll. You’re my top two favorites. Also really like Sweats in the City.
I found you when a friend linked you from her blog, stating that you write the way that we think and it’s true! I stayed (and actually subscribe) because I can relate to almost every single thing you write about. You know how you sometimes find a song that describes exactly how you’re feeling, or an event that you’re going through in life, and you send it to someone significant in your life, hoping that they’ll find the lyrics as riveting and meaningful as you do? That’s how I feel about your blog, I will share it with every girl I come across, and quite a few guys as well. Oh, Canadian by the way, so I guess there’s some similarities
I’ve really enjoyed getting the frequent updates the last month, a great part of my day.
I found you through the wordpress main page months and months ago, I think you were one of the fastest growing blogs or something. I stayed because I too am a twenty-something single girl in the south, and because your writing is engaging. Thanks for so often putting what I feel into words!
I got here through Nablopomo and I tell ya since I have been here your stories are interesting and I love that fact that you keep it real.. I needed to hear a lot of the things that you have written about…
Ne.
I just recently found your blog (via a link from another great blog), and I’ve been really enjoying your writing. You have a fresh perspective on a topic that is at the forefront of my mind for many hours of the day. I like that fact that you’re optimistic, funny, and honest, and reading your blog makes me feel like I have a band of interesting, strong women riding along on the dating journey with me. Keep up the great posts, and we’ll all keep reading. : ) Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us!
I found you via a link from another blog. And I stay because I love the way you write. I’m an unsmug-married, but I kind of miss the excitement of the whole dating thing, mishaps and all.
Also, I loved the entries about the shoe tent-sale
Well, I saw you featured in the WordPress homepage many, many months ago and I stayed because I am 27, single and according to many, charming too, so, I identify with so many of your thoughts and you write them so well.
:o)
I forget how I found your site. But I can relate to most (if not all) of the guy-related stories you post.
Kudos, Miss Charming.
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I just think your intellectually hot.
cant remember how i got here…
but i read u everyday cos u say out loud what i only ever think in private! “u carry my heart”
I can’t, for the love of all that’s good, remember how I got here. Probably through someone’s link in another blog. I just remember thinking that your blog’s title was pitch-perfect to what many family members say about girls who are single. She’s charming, but single. Or the other version, “if she’s so charming, why is she single”. Both are the same veiled comment. But I digress.. That’s why I came here.
I stay because your writing is awesome, because you can put very well what we single girls go through and because you are from the south, like me, and have a big family (or it has seemed like it) like me.
Hmm, I think I came by here after googling Single Dating blogs. It was right after you had moved to wordpress. The older posts cracked me up though! Yours was the first blog I read on a regular basis. And then I found other blogs through your blog roll too!!! I have to admit, I do link your blogs to my private myspace sometimes, but its always like — “Look at this funny blog post I just read!” — nothing mean , promise!!!
I would say I’m just arriving. (From the geekhiker’s blog). Although I wonder whether that was a rhetorical question or not.
I found you through My So-Called Life… I stay because I find you funny and you write very well. Keep it coming! ; )
I have been reading you for about 2 years now, and have added you to my favorites thru switching from one job to another! I am a non-blogger, but think that I ran across you on a friend’s blog. I have been reading your charming thoughts ever since! I am a southern twenty-something myself, so I feel like I not only relate to you, but sometimes think that we would be BEST friends in real life. (in a non-stalker way! haha) Also, loving the daily posts… I get excited everytime I check in
I can’t remember how I got here, which is sad, because it was not that long ago! I think I was looking for other single boggers like me, who write stuff I can relate to. That is why I stay.
I came across your blog while looking for cynical single blogs. I dont remember the exact google but it was something like that. I was looking for kindered spirits to my blog. Of course mine is more about me being stupid, buying things I dont need than the rare date I have. I stayed because well we are kindered spirits in that effect. So yeah your fun.
I don’t remember how I got here either. I do enjoy your stories though. It’s always nice to know that I am not the only 27 y.o. single, charming and successful girl around
Keep up the good work!
over a year ago i came here via someone else’s blog, and i’m not sure who, it’s been so long. i stick around because i have a blog-crush on you, to be frank. and because i’m a single guy, and it’s always interesting to hear what the other side is thinking.
Got here via a blogroll, and I LURVE YOU! You are funny, dating, and Southern, which just makes me feel like I’m right at home. Add to those factors that you’re a darn good writer, and sister, you’ve got yourself a fan!
I came from some other blog whose name I can no longer remember. I think you’re intelligent and witty and charming. Your blog is one of my happy places! Cheers from Vancouver (BC).
I got here a while ago via another blog, which the name alludes me now (but it was out of the blog being defunct). But I’ve always visited, never really laying down any comments.
I’ve since linked to you, when I decided to blog about my love life, and be semi-anonymous. I think you rock, and it’s refreshing to see a blogger (real world woman) who isn’t trying to be Carrie Bradshaw, but just her charming (worthy of her own TV character + book) self.
And like Matt, I think you’re “intellectually hot” - hope that’s ok coming from a lass. For a very long time you helped me to keep the faith in dating in the world were men really do think they come from Mars + women really do think they come from Venus <— For that I say “muito obrigada” - as we say in Brasil.
I don’t remember how I got here… did the glamour bogger mention yours? Not sure.. anyway, I found you and I stay because I can relate to a lot of your posts! Plus they are well written and funny - can’t beat that!
holy comments, batman!!!
i think leaving comment #75 is a record for me!
i found you through……..um……….NML’s blog, maybe? or dating dummy’s? maybe teahouse? i’ve been reading you a long time, so i’ve forgotten, to be honest. but most of the blogs i read are through those.
i remember when i first saw your name on a comment. i thought, “hey! i’m charming and single, too! i bet i will like her!” and then i saw that you are also Southern, and i thought, “I’m in!’
and i’ve loved every minute of it!!!! considering we’ve never met, i can relate to you more than most people i talk to all day long! weird, huh?
i like commenting here because i think it’s important for single women who are navigating dating and work and life to support each other. it’s rough out here! and we have very similar problems, i think. so……yeah. that’s why.
my friend lizzie of http://ysilona.blogspot.com introduce your blog in her blog, and i was intrigued so i came and then got hooked
i love reading your little dating adventures, maybe because I don’t have those
sad but true 
Found your blog via JustAnotherMan.blogspot.com. You are definitely very charming and remind me of who I once was. And I continue to read your postings because I can’t wait until that day when one of them reads, “Still Charming… but taken!” and your dating adventures give way to your married with children adventures.
It’ll happen (as these things do) when you least expect it.