Pick myself up and get back in the race December 19, 2007
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The truth is I’ve been a bit grumpy lately. It’s the holidays and I’ve been busy. Work. Shopping. A weekend trip out of town for Best Friend Ever’s bachelorette party. (Side note: I felt much like country mouse gone to the city. Where I’m from “bottle service” means Budweiser, Miller or Coors.) Missing my dear out-of-town friends. Not seeing enough of my in-town ones.
And my birthday, which was today, was kind of an afterthought. Sure I’ve made some plans to celebrate with friends and family. While I traditionally enjoy being showered with attention for My Day and those closest to me certainly wished me well and made me feel special and so unbelievably lucky to be surrounded by warmth and kindness, I haven’t been able to shake this sense of melancholy.
So I’ve reached out and refused to be a shut in. And slowly, the feeling is fading.
Renewing my faith in myself and working to pinpoint what is bringing me down, well, that may take a bit longer.
At least by this age – 28 – I know myself well enough to acknowledge my moodiness, which I’m sure is a first step of some kind.
Weekend birthday plans? Check. Christmas plans? Check. New Year’s Plans? Double check.
There’s nothing like anticipating good times to motivate you to dust yourself off, slap on a pair of heels and pass a good time, ya hear?
Happy Birthday!!! ( ^o^ )
Happy Birthday!!!!!
It’s so true about acknowledging your moods being important. There’s nothing I hate more than a person who’s being a grumpy biatch and thinking they’re acting perfectly fine. I have so much more respect when someone’s like “I’m being a complete ass right now, but I’m just in a super horrible mood and it will pass soon.” That’s all it takes!
Happy Birthday!!!!!!
Happy Birthday! I think you’re still charming, even if a bit grumpy
Happy Birthday! I hope you have tons of fun! =)
Bottle service: ‘Calvados’ http://www.calvadosonline.co.uk/
(You’ll thank me later).
Melancholy? Thy man is Nouriel Roubini http://www.rgemonitor.com/
Moody but muddling? Consider Belgium.
“I traditionally enjoy being showered with attention for My day…”
Sometimes this is a good thing. Past 29… ???
Happy Birthday C! (It picks up again after 70 or so. Then everyone’s so surprised you’re still there!)
Cheers & Happy Holidays! ‘VJ’
Sorry you’re feeling melancholy, but good on you for knowing how to get yourself out of it. Happy birthday! =)
Happy birthday, Charming. Keep track of how 28 feels and report back, since in a few months I’ll be there myself.
Happy Birthday! Go celebrate!!!
Gawd!!!!!!!! I thought I was the only one feeling melancholy and moody lately? What is it with the holidays doin’ shit like that to us, huh? But I’m with ya on picking myself back up! Get over the blahness of it all now cause none of that will be acceptable by next week! New York for New Years! Need I say more? Here’s to the feelings fading, dusting ourselves off, and gettin’ back in the thick of it all!!! And,
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!! Sounds like you had a great time.
Happy, happy birthday! Hope your 28th year brings many, many joyous blessings! My 28th year sure did–in the form of a train crush turned BF turned co-habitator (living in sin!) turned love of my life. I know it’s hard, but keep trusting that you will find your match when your match is ready to be found, or the other way around.
Happy B-day! I’ll be 28 in a few months, and I’m not looking forward to it. The holidays are the same way, it is a great time to see family and friends, but it also is another year gone, etc. Anyhow, it sounds like you have some great plans lined up!
Happy Birthday!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!! I was in your position 2 weeks ago- I stubbornly refused to make plans for Christmas or NY (family is in another country) because I thought I’d just be miserable by myself. And then I realized I was shooting myself in the foot, so now I have exciting plans for both! Nothing like forcing yourself to stop being miserable
Again, happy birthday!
Happy Birthday!!
For some reason I think that the further we progress into our 20s, the more likely it is that the birthday will be accompanied by a touch of melancholy (particularly for those of us of the single persuasion).
Or that could just be me. I’ll be hitting the big 2-8 in a few weeks myself…
Either way, enjoy the holidays! When in doubt, a little (or a lot) well-spiked eggnog goes a long way towards brightening one’s spirits
Happy B-day Girlie!
Happy Birthday!!! I feel exactly the same as my 28 is 8 days away. Enjoy your plans
Hey, Happy Birthday! : )
Everyone gets in these types of funks every once in a while. You get caught up in your routine, you’re busy, and you just don’t have enough time for yourself to relax and unwind and just enjoy life for a change. Your upcoming holiday plans will no doubt pick you up a little, and hopefully you can get back to your normal self once things settle down. Hang in there!
Happy Birthday Girl! I hope you had a great one!!!
Hey C, Happy Birthday- Day late, sorry… Your are still better off then me…I have 3 months and 7 days left of my 20’s…YIKES! just wait til that one is fast approaching and you will know what fear and melancholy really is- ha…(I’m getting my first tatoo later this week…one of those “I need to do this before I’m 30 things”) And the “one” just isn’t showing herself yet. Come on Where are YOU?
Anyway Happy birthday Hope you have/had a great day. And Happy Holidays!
SUPER happy birthday!
i hear ya! i agree that acknowledging one’s own moods is key to getting more out of life. happy birthday and hope to stay in touch with you on the blogosphere!
Okay, here’s my mathematical solution to getting older- if everyone keeps telling us that 40 is the new 30, and 30 is the new 20, that makes you 18 and legal today! Congratulations, and relish the fact that in our generation, it’s ABSOLUTELY ACCEPTABLE to do anything later, or earlier, than previous norms so have fun in the meantime figuring out which is right for you. I had a friend that recently celebrated his “twenty-eleventh” birthday with a party to rival any rowdy 21 year old. “We don’t stop having fun as we get older, we get older because we stop having fun!”
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
Happy Birthday my friend. Glad to hear you’ve got all your ducks lined up in a row for the upcoming holidays. I hope the times ahead are indeed good.
“There’s nothing like anticipating good times to motivate you to dust yourself off”
I love this.
Happy Birthday. Xmas and New Year. Whew. Done.
Now about spilling beers on guys as ways to meet them…I recommend against it.
Many happy returns, Charming…I hope you have some idea of how enjoyable it is to read of your musings and adventures! You do bring comfort and joy to all of us out here in the blogosphere, and best of luck in rounding up some for yourself…
Happy Birthday!
-Scribe
Happy Birthday, I’ve been reading the blog since you were 26 and will probably still be reading until you’re either not charming or not single anymore.
Happy Birthday. I love your blog! I am going to be a maid of honor as well. My first time, and I’m a little nervous.
Any tips?
Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays!!!
Danielle
Happy Birthday! I hate that melancholy feeling that comes around birthdays, but I think you are doing exactly the right thing by picking up and getting back “in the race.”
Happiest of birthday wishes to you. Hope you get to feeling a little better… I know I get SAD in the winter. Sun seems to help. Keep blogging, so the rest of us have something to read. Love ya.