Cloudy thoughts and the future of my personal health care February 28, 2008
Posted by charmingbutsingle in Forgive me while I ramble, General Clumsiness and Related Stupidity, I will never ever actually admit to this ever, It's a strategy, Sad but true, Single Girl Cliches, We Get It -- You're Stressed About Getting Old.trackback
As I type, a yummy cocktail of codeine cough syrup and sweet tea is snaking its way into my belly – hopefully it will take over very soon. You see, I haven’t slept well in two nights and my doctor swears I don’t have the historic flu Worst Flu Season Ever flu, but he did agree that I definitely had a fever and a nasty cough. And my body is sore. And a killer headache. And the chills. And wheezing lungs. All of this earned me a shot and a super strong, and naturally disgusting, prescription.
Which doesn’t have much to with anything other than to say that I’m heavily medicated and lacking sleep, which is a dangerous combo. Indeed. (Case in point, The Blackberry just offered via text to make a housecall. When I rebuffed his advance and said I was fevery and icky, he responded with “That’s how I like ‘em.” Awesome side note: Apparently my cell phone, which uses predictive texting, hasn’t yet learned the term “slut,” so I had to teach it that so I could call him one.)
What’s weird is that today I’ve been thinking about doctors. My new primary care doctor. My orthopedist. (No more fracture! Can wear heels in a month!) And my OBGYN.
See, I’ve been taking recommendations for a new OBGYN. Because my old OBGYN is, well, old and he’s near retirement and, hell, he delivered me. Which is kind of a problem because he’s not delivering babies anymore. And whenever I think of this, I hear “I don’t know nothing about birthin’ no babies!” in my head.
I do.
So I’ve had to have the awkward conversation with people:
“Why do you need a new OBGYN?”
“Well, my guy is near retirement and he doesn’t birth babies anymore and I want to have babies in the next five to seven to 10 years.”
And that is so weird to say aloud. Because when you’re single and 28 with no prospects and no potential father in mind, picking a new OBGYN because you want to one day have babies seems a bit off. And I’m sure people are thinking, “Oh yeah, before you pick an OBGYN to birth your imaginary unmade baby, maybe you should pick a man, mmmkay?”
But, you know, since you only see an OBGYN once a year (ideally), you only have so many years to establish a doctor-patient relationship. Shouldn’t you start now instead of waiting until you actually get preggers?
This is one of those moments where planning for the future seems a bit futile. And maybe it is the fact that I haven’t washed my hair in two days and I’m sniffly and full of phlegm and I’m in my rattiest sweatpants, but I seem so far from ever finding a partner at this exact moment that changing OBGYNs to find someone who will birth my as-yet-and-possibly-never-conceived baby seems overly idealistic.
And, ohmygoodness, I just laid out my procreation timeline for the entire Internet.
I’m blaming the codeine.
Hope you feel better soon! *HUG* in response to finding an OBGYN, and your procreation timeline even though you’re 28 and single
Ah, codeine is wonderful stuff, isn’t it?
Next time I’m in a bind, unable to write a post due to massive writers-block, I’m breaking out the codeine!
medication… it does something to us when combined with lack of sleep. Feel better and build a relationship with your new OBGYN. You can’t every be too prepared.
I’m right there with you - both with the feeling icky and the fact that I, a single, 27 year old with no father prospects plans to have children in the next 5, 7, 10 years. I have not given up hope! Not just yet anyways.
I think that an OBGYN-patient relationship is very precious and important…my Gyno back home delivered me…and she’s my mom’s Gyno…and I’m pretty sure she’ll deliver my kids. But in the meantime, while I’m living 300 miles north of her and her office, I had to find a new one. It’s scary…as if the stirrups and “light pressure on your inner thigh” isn’t awkward enough!
I hope you find someone to deliver your babies…and a man too…it doesn’t matter which order, it’ll all work out in the end!
In any case, you can order your ideal sperm to go nowadays.
Doctor, tall, blonde, MENSA member, whatever you want.
And apply with turkey baster.
Things always work out
YAY to the heels! I injured my ankle a while back and the first day back in heels was FABULOUS! Remember to take photos for us!
I think your search for an OBGYN before the urgent need hits is very wise. If you like your current OBGYN, could you ask him for a referral /recommendation?
Hey Charming!!I am sorry you are feeling bad! I hope you get to feeling better! good luck in your search with your OB! and your life plan!
I don’t know where you acquired codeine, but I’m jealous
Whatever you do, don’t set an age like, “by 30, I want to have a kid”. My friend has that, and I think I speak for all guys when I say that freaks us out!! Give it time….for the guy, not gyno.
I actually think that finding another OBGYN is just smart preparation, childbearing notwithstanding. You may want to ask your current one what his timeline is for continuing to practice…you don’t even need to bring up your desire to have kids. It’s a reasonable question, either way. My accountant didn’t let her clients know she was retiring till January, and I’d assumed this was coming from little clues - but I was not pleased about the timing - i.e., at the beginning of tax season.
I love codeine! I bet you got a good night’s sleep after taking the coughn syrup right?
You never need to explain why you are looking for a new doctor.
I hope you’re feeling better by now!
I think it’s just having a goal. Goals are good. Need an OB/GYN whether you get hte baby or not. Certainly you should pick one with that in mind since that will be when you spend the most time with this particular specialist.
I feel your pain. I have been deathly ill this week too. I’m better minus the fact that I can’t shake the wheezing in my chest.
Hope you’re feeling better!
Oh boy. : ) Hope you’re feeling better, and don’t worry about if/when you’ll have that baby that your new OBGYN can deliver. Planning is a good thing. Organization never hurt anyone!
So how are you doing these days?
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