On an island in the sun February 5, 2007
Posted by charmingbutsingle in Daydreams, E-mail goodness, Friends.9 comments
More actual e-mails:
From: Charming, but single
To: College Roommate
RE: Monday
I want to win the lottery, buy an island and drop out of society. You can come.
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From: College Roommate
To: Charming, but single
RE: Monday
Sounds good to me. Can [College Roommate's Boyfriend] come?
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From: Charming, but single
To: College Roommate
RE: Monday
I hadn’t worked out all of the details of the island. But yes, [Boyfriend] can come. There will be a vigorous application process for the other inhabitants. It will involve baby oil, “Thunderstruck” and a cooking test.
Well now I’m distracted … December 21, 2006
Posted by charmingbutsingle in Dating, Daydreams, Random Musings on Life.8 comments
So, my “Romantic Daily Horoscope” from today says the following:
Astral influences indicate that love and abundance are coming your way, but you have to clearly visualize the bounty. It’s your job to figure out how to improve your life using your vast store of inner resources.
I’m sorry, I can’t move on to figuring out how to tap my inner resources to improve my life. I’m too busy clearly visualizing every sweaty moment of the hot, juicy bounty of sexy, tall, cuddly man love that I’d like to come my way.
Look, the horoscope said I had to VISUALIZE these things! And WHO am I to argue with MY HOROSCOPE?
So tonight’s birthday celebration? Could be looking up.
An Open Letter to Myself on the Occasion of a Growing Crush July 19, 2006
Posted by charmingbutsingle in Dating, Daydreams, Men, Open Letters, Random Musings on Life, Single Girl Cliches, Tales of Online Dating.29 comments
Note from CBS: It’s been awhile since I wrote one of these open letters … and I am definitely in need of one, methinks.
Dear Charming,
I know that you are quite taken with – dare I say smitten? – A certain Medical Professional who is a great kisser and smokes a good cigarette. He is attentive. He is dorky in the best kind of way.
And the chemistry is there.
That said, I encourage you to stop the freefall plunge into Attachment just yet. It is perfectly fine to want things to work out. You do deserve a nice guy who is capable of having an adult relationship. But you can’t confuse this lusty flirtation with anything more than the beginnings of a really good crush with fun extracurriculars.
Because at this point, that is all that it is.
And until he shows his hand, hold yours close to the vest. Call me a cynic, dear, but there’s nothing that says that slowly giving into your desires and developing feelings is bad. In fact, truth be told, it is probably much better to take a step back and wait for his next move. You are stuck in the haze, my dear. You are having the inappropriate daydreams about his involvement in your life, aren’t you? (I know you are. And that one about a rainy Sunday was fantastic, if I do say so myself.) You are settling for his last-minute plans with you when you are deserving of some forethought.
Make sure he’s right before you get attached. Don’t put the dreams of a relationship before the right guy.
Put down the phone. Stop checking your e-mail obsessively. He will call. And while you’re waiting, you should plan a date with another suitor for sure.
And if he doesn’t call, then we SERIOUSLY have to talk about your approach to dating.
Right after we have a cosmo and two Camel UltraLights.
Sincerely,
Charming
